Attitude is not a fixed state. sometimes i feel like give up and i remember i have lots of ** to prove wrong .
Whether you are 15 years old or 50, your outlook toward life is always under construction.It’s never too late to change it. If your attitude is deflating you, here’s how to pump it up.
1. Evaluate your current attitude.
This is the hardest step in the process. You need to detach from yourself and take a hard look at how you respond to situations. Identify your problem feelings. What attitudes make you feel most negative about yourself? Identify your problem behaviors. What actions create conflict between you and others? Identify your problem thinking. What thoughts cloud or control your mind?
2. Write a statement of purpose.
If your biggest flaw is impatience with others, for example, vow to take a deep breath, listen to them more carefully and develop empathy—an ability to see situations through other people’s eyes. If your downfall is complaining, learn to smile, speak positive words, or if all else fails, silence yourself entirely.don’t compare your selfwith anyone in this word ..if you do so you are insulting yourself.
3. Find new words.
If you were trying to motivate other people, you’d pump them up, wouldn’t you? You’d offer words of support, encouragement and inspiration.Do you do the same for yourself? So many people I’ve met—people with tremendous potential—shortchange themselves with a self-defeating internal voice. I can’t. I doubt. I don’t think. I don’t have the time. I’m afraid. I don’t believe.
This self-doubt darkens our attitudes, limits our success and casts a shadow over our lives. The fix is easy: Change the language. I can. I expect the best. I know. I’ll make the time. I am confident. I believe.
4. Rewire your thought patterns.
Our feelings come from our thoughts. We can change them by changing our thought patterns.It’s our thoughts, not our circumstances, that determine our happiness. Often, people are convinced they will be happy when they attain a certain goal. When they do, they are surprised and disappointed to discover that they don’t feel fulfilled. What they don’t realize is the act of filling one’s mind with good thoughts every day, regardless of what’s going on in their lives, will bring more overall satisfaction than the one-time high of a job well done.
5. Develop good habits.
An attitude is nothing more than a habit of thought. Habits aren’t instincts; they’re acquired actions. They don’t just happen; they are caused. Many people allow their habits to control them. That’s good if the habits enhance our quality of life. If not, well, life becomes cloudy indeed. You can change your habits. Here’s how:
List your bad habits. Determine the root cause(s) behind them. Determine a positive habit to replace a bad one. Take action to develop that. Act upon this new habit daily. Reward yourself by noting one of the benefits of this new habit. I see habit change as a process, so don’t dismay if you don’t see results overnight. The early stages will be the hardest.
Those bad habits want to remain in control. In the middle stages, you’re on the proverbial fence, deciding whether to step fully onto the other side or tumble back into your old ways. In the late stage, you’ve successfully corrected a flaw and are enjoying the attitudinal shift that comes with it. But beware: Complacency is the enemy.Just ask anyone who has lost weight only to gain it back.